Hey there,
Let’s get honest.
Because what you’re carrying is heavier than anyone knows.
You’ve been holding it all together.
But deep down, you’re falling apart.
You show up for work. For your family. For your people.
But when it’s quiet…
You’re left alone with the weight you never talk about.
This ain’t burnout.
This is survival mode with a smile on your face and a storm behind your eyes.
You’re Not Weak. You’ve Just Been Carrying Too Much Alone.
And if you’ve been struggling silently?
You’re not the only one.
đź“Š Men are 4x more likely to die by suicide than women.
đź“Š And only 41% of men who need help actually get it.
That means you could be in crisis and still feel like you’re "just stressed."
That’s how good men die too soon: not from weakness, but from being taught to suffer in silence.
💡 Here’s How You Know You’re Holding It In:
Let’s call out the signs:
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You joke your way through pain because honesty feels too exposed.
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You get irritated easily, then shut down instead of speaking up.
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You say “I’m good” even when you're falling apart inside.
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You either can’t sleep... or sleep too much to escape the pressure.
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You overwork, overthink, or disappear because that feels safer than talking.
If any of that feels familiar…
You’re not broken.
You’re just bottling up what nobody ever gave you permission to release.
Why Do Men Stay Quiet?
Let me break it down:
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We were told crying is weak.
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We weren’t taught the language to express anything but “angry” or “fine.”
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We fear losing respect if we open up.
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We watched our fathers stay silent, so we thought that’s what strength looks like.
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We worry about what people will say at work, at home, and in the group chat.
So we shut down.
We tough it out.
We suffer quietly, and the world calls it “being a man.”
But real strength?
It’s learning how to speak when silence is killing you.
I Know That Silence Too Well
Before I became the Mental Health Champion, I was the one cracking jokes in public, being the life of the party, and drinking (heavily) in private.
Smiling in front of people.
Crying behind closed doors.
Waking up in the morning, wishing I didn’t.
I was doing all the right things on paper:
Working hard. Showing up.
But inside?
I was spiraling out of control fast.
Not because I was weak.
But because I had nowhere safe to say,
“I’m not okay.”
I didn’t need a motivational quote.
I didn’t need a hype video.
I needed something to help me check in with myself, before I self-destructed.
That’s why I created this:
The Just Believe Journal
It’s not “just a journal.”
It’s your mental reset system, designed for high-performing professionals, quiet leaders, and those who rarely get asked how they’re doing.
âś… 90 days of prompts to help you reflect, reset, and protect your peace
âś… Daily check-ins that keep your emotions from building into breakdowns
✅ A safe place to finally say what you’ve been holding in
Because you don’t need more pressure.
You need a plan that helps you hold it without it holding you back.
Ask Yourself:
🛑 How long have I been pretending I’m fine?
🛑 What would change if I gave myself space to be honest, without shame?
🛑 What happens if I don’t pause… until it’s too late?
Brother… you’re not broken.
You’ve just been doing too much, for too long, with nowhere to put it.
Let’s change that, together.
Keep fighting. Keep believing.
You’re closer than you think.
Always in your corner,
Herbie Mack
The Mental Health Champion
Speaker | Strategist | Host of The Just Believe Show
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